Sarah: What If You Know Your Vision, But You Can’t Express It?

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By Sarah Vincelette

The terms ‘theme’ and ‘vision’ are thrown around like confetti when you’re meeting with potential vendors. They want to know exactly what your wedding is all about, how it’s going to look, and how you plan on pulling it off. If you’re not ready to answer those questions (like me), then this post is for you.

I’m the type of person who knows what she wants when she sees it. I’m very visual, and can tell at a quick glance if I like the look of something or not. This comes into play with clothing, home décor, foods, makeup– you name it. This little facet of talent, however, doesn’t help when I am attempting to put my vision into words. I ran into this issue most notably with my florist. “I love neutrals!” I said. “No bright flashy colors, definitely.” To her, this meant I wanted solely earth tones; browns, beiges, whites with greenery. In our next meeting, I showed her a photo of a bouquet I’d liked. It had pinks. “I thought you said neutrals…?”

My fault here is that I hadn’t overtly expressed precisely what I meant by neutrals. To me, certain shades of pink can be neutral! What I visualize in my mind, and what I categorize certain things as, can be completely different to someone else. So when you’re meeting with a potential vendor, and even more so when you’re speaking to a vendor you’ve already chosen, be excessively descriptive with what you want. If they misunderstand, don’t be afraid to politely correct them! The most important thing is that your vision is captured; your vendors want to make sure of this, too.